Hello everyone, and welcome back to my little corner of the internet. After blogmas, I decided to take a few days out of blogging so that I can spend time with my friends and family. It’s the kind of week where you have absolutely no clue what day it is, or even where you are, but that’s what makes it good.
Now, I don’t know about you guys, but 2017 has been such an odd year. Not good, not bad, just really odd. It’s also taught me a lot about myself and other people, which I can say I’m glad about. So I’ve just put together a few things that 2017 has taught me:
- People will support you, if it benefits them.
Obviously none of this associates with EVERY SINGLE person on earth, but maybe just a tiny handful. This has taken me all year to learn, and I’m glad I’ve learnt it now. People like to see you doing well, and being happy, but they never want to see you doing better than them. Now, when you do well and things are going great, thats when the support stops. To be honest, looking back, I’m glad I’ve learnt this lesson, because it just shows that some of your ‘friends’ aren’t really your friends and that’s fine by me.
- Surrounding yourself with positive people is IMPORTANT
I can not stress how important positivity is. Now I like to think that I’m quite positive, the ‘glass half-full’ kinda gal, and so being around someone with a really negative mindset is just incredibly draining. This includes people who have negative motives, and who are involved with things for all the wrong reasons. I’m pretty sure you’ve all been there, hanging around someone who’s always moaning just leaves you feeling so deflated. Which is why I’m starting to surround myself with positive people who leave me smiling, instead of questioning my life choices.
- Leaving the negativity behind you
So this kind of links in with my previous point, but I’ve learnt to leave negativity behind me. If it’s done then just leave it, there’s no point bringing it back up because you’ll just be left feeling like a big pile of poo. Which no one wants.
- Hold your cards close to your chest
My mum is the reason for this point, as a few months ago I had come to the conclusion that I’d keep things to myself and my mum agreed. She told me to ‘keep my cards close to my chest’ and since then, it has stuck with me. The world doesn’t need to know what I’m doing in uni, or what I’ll be doing next, or any exciting things that I’ve got planned. 2018 will be a year of silent planning, and becoming more of a private person. This also links with trust, as I’ve learnt (quite a few times actually) that you can’t really trust anyone (except a small few). Which is a shame, but I’m not going to cry about it, it’s just one of those things. Keeping your cards close to your chest is all about the people you trust, and knowing who you can talk to.
- People come into your lives as lessons or blessings
This is one of my most treasured quotes. (Get ready for good old sentimental Kelsey) Everyone in your life has a purpose for being in your life. Whether it’s good or bad. No matter what, you will always come out wiser. The ‘just-about-tolerable’ people in your life are there as a lesson, as well as any other kind of bad person. Then you have your ‘ride-or-dies’, the blessings in your life, like your partner and best friends. I pretty much live by this saying.
- Play your own game and focus on YOU
This point has been influenced by my dad, as he has ‘Play your own game’ tattooed on him. All too often we find ourselves getting carried away looking at the lives other people are living, especially through social media, and I guess this is just a little reminder to focus on yourself and play your own game. Your time is coming. You can’t compare your life to someone else’s because you’re at two different stages. Who cares if your friend went to Oxford and you only went to a small university down south. It’s about what you do. What you put in, is what you get out of it.
- It never kills to be kind
I think there is always enough room for kindness in the world, always. No matter what, always be kind because you never know what’s going on in someone else’s life. Even if you can’t really stand the sight of someone, then just kill them with kindness (metaphorically speaking of course). No one’s ever going to moan or complain if you’re nice to someone, so it’s a win-win situation, and believe it or not, you actually feel so much better for being kind, or doing something good.
So, this isn’t an exhaustive list of what 2017 has taught me, but just a few key points that I’ll be taking into next year with me.
What have you guys learnt this year? Leave a comment below!
Thanks for reading, and Happy New Year when it comes,